We Need More Daddy’s Girls—Here’s Why

As a dating coach, I’ve heard men complain that daddy’s girls are “spoiled and entitled brats” and “no man will ever be good enough for a daddy’s girl, nor will any man ever measure up to Daddy himself.” Modern men resent sparring and reckoning with a woman’s father especially when the woman in question is a daddy’s girl—a man remains instinctively aware that there will be some challenges and obstacles in place and he will have to step up and prove himself morally as a man. Many modern men are immoral, hence why they resent it. Modern women on the other hand voice their disapproval of the daddy’s girl due to the climbing illegitimacy rate and the disintegration of the family unit. Single motherhood is leaving a lot of young women in the modern era without a strong father figure in their lives. Many of today’s women would love to have had a doting, stable father figure in the home and they rightfully feel it has wrongly impacted their upbringing as young girls. This has again become apparent to me in my own line of work as a dating coach having worked with a number of women who had no father present, or they had a very weak example of a father, whose standard 21st century dummy caricature of what a father should be fell short. In other words, these women’s fathers took a backseat/passive role while their feminist mothers “wore the pants.” They witnessed their mothers emasculate their fathers over a sustained period of time, and Dad was checked out not only in the marriage, but in their daughter’s upbringing—where in adulthood they were ultimately left to fend for themselves against today’s immoral and exploitative men who pursue them with ill-intent. Needless to say, none of this benefits young women growing up in today’s culture. We need more daddy’s girls to make their way into our social fabric. Here’s why: The Daddy’s Girl Knows What a Self-Actualized Man Looks Like A family man, who is involved, present and has immense pride in raising a family is a self-actualized man. A father in his utmost protective and provider role remains a young girl’s primary masculine male role model throughout her lifetime. He will model what it means to be a man in a young girl’s most formative years. His leadership, guidance and direction in ensuring the safety and well-being of his family, where their needs are paramount, will shape her views towards men. The bills aren’t going to pay themselves and a father is demonstrating what the male provider mindset looks like to a little girl and her whole family. He works hard each day and spends time away from the home while also tending to the financial needs of his wife (her mother). A young girl can glean a lot from watching how her mother and father handle the family finances and their interrelationships around money and keeping a household together. They can also sense how much her mother respects his vocation and his ability to earn. Like their mothers, Daddy’s girl tend to to be proud of “the man of the house” in the strong, provider role. This is also why modern men scoff at a daddy’s girl’s father in not being able to measure up in how he provides and is present for her. “She’s too spoiled,” they insist. Daddy’s girls have a special and exclusive father-daughter relationship where Dad is their very first real example of the hero male archetype. If Daddy could lasso the moon and seize it for her right out of the night sky, he would. Every act of sustenance and kindness he extents to her in caring for her as her father is heroic no matter how mundane or grand the gesture. A percentage of modern men can’t measure up to a daddy’s girl’s father in many ways. If they could, they would honor these fathers for their efforts as patriarchal men. Instead, they shame women for adjusting well and adapting to the world around them in bearing these stronger foundational roots. A Protective Man In the Father Role Is a Young Woman’s Primary and Most Crucial Role Model A daddy’s girl will look for the aforementioned qualities and traits in every man she will date beginning in young adulthood. The daddy’s girl knows what a good man is with her father’s strong male moral code having been instilled in her. She will understand what it is to feel safe and protected by a man. This will reinforce a more traditional feminine identity within her at a very young age. The world feels inherently too big, too scary and too unsafe to little girls. Little girls tend to be very sensitive to the world around them and strong, protective men help them to understand and accept their own female limitations. “I can’t climb that ladder and go up high on the roof like Daddy can.” “I can’t drive the big truck and keep us out of the cold, wet, rain and mud like Daddy can.” And further down the road in her teenage years, when Mr. 3rd period asks her to prom, and Dad insists on meeting him and sizing him up, she will be anxious to discover what her father thinks of him. She will now witness her father in his protective role, where he will ask questions, make mental notes and assessments, and he will use his wit to size up Mr. 3rd Period to find out if he’s suitable for his daughter. This is a very special impasse in a young woman’s life. Watching her father play a vital role in helping her select men based on his own set of values, moral choices, attitudes, and even social conventions. Daddy approaches it from all directions. And it makes a girl feel loved, special, valued and secure. She will learn to know a good character from a bad one. And she will select for the good character as he will remind her of her father—the stronger man she greatly admires who set the right example for her from the start. A Strong Father Figure Fosters Healthy, Feminine Self-Esteem As we discussed above, a woman’s father will make or break her self-image when it comes to men from the time she makes her way into the world as a child. He is her very first real example of morality. Her first glimpse into the concrete world of what is objectively right and wrong. Perhaps there will be an instance in which she has to witness her father protect her mother from physical harm being exacted on her by another man. When a little girl sees how her father will step in and protect her mother, her sister and even herself, she will deem herself a woman “worth fighting for.” There’s no greater feeling in the world to a woman, no matter her age, to be emotionally and physically protected by a man. For a man to defend her honor is to reassure her in her womanhood. That she is not a man who can fist fight with men in the street. That she is worth every bit of the effort in keeping her protected and safe just by virtue of her being a girl/young woman. When a father is emotionally supportive and nurturing while also being in a sturdy protective/provider role, she will learn to respect the masculine. She will have a firm grasp on how a man should treat a woman, and how women will defer to a stronger man with authority who commands respect. Closing Thoughts The daddy’s girl is kryptonite to modernity in which broken and immoral men use and abuse women as many women tend to not have a true sense of right and wrong in terms of male behavior, morality and values. Their fathers were not present in the home and countless young women and girls are suffering for it. We need more daddy’s girls who have a solid and healthy sense of self that can only be instilled in them in their youth in having an honorable male role model fully present in their lives. The daddy’s girl will make any man rise to the challenge in showing up morally as her protector and provider. Daddy raised them right and they won’t bother with men who set out to do them wrong. The daddy’s girl wants a hero and will never settle for a zero (and modern men hate that).