Single 34-Year-Old Woman In Tech Complains That Her Success Is Preventing Her From Finding Love, Sparking Conversation About What Men Find Attractive

The rate of marriage has been in decline since the start of the 21st century in the United States, meaning far fewer people are getting married now than they were 20 years ago. Working women who live in coastal cities have an especially hard time finding a boyfriend, let alone a husband. A woman anonymously shared her dating struggles online, also sharing how much she makes each year and what her assets are. She expressed confusion at how hard it has been to find a guy who isn't intimidated by her. It's not clear what city she lives in, but it wouldn't be a bad guess to say that she lives in a coastal city such as San Francisco. Her post was shared on Twitter and has gone viral, resulting in a lively discussion about femininity, dating, and what men are truly attracted to in a woman.

Single 34-Year-Old Woman in Tech Complains That Her Success Is Preventing Her from Finding Love

A Twitter user named @proetrie shared a screenshot of a woman's anonymous post about her dating struggles. She's 34 years old, works in tech, and has traveled a lot. However, after trying just about every dating app out there, she hasn't had any luck finding a guy to date seriously.

"Been single for the past 3 years," she writes. "Love traveling, been to 20+ countries, and have lived in 3 continents so I have had a lot of fun experiences. I am a mixed race 5'6, also very active physically, and my male friends say I am definitely 8+ in terms of looks."

"I have tried dating on pretty much most of the apps and the quality of men out there has been dismal. Most of them get intimidated once they know I own a house, speak 5 languages, travel around the world, have a fancy car, and manage a team of 20+ at Google," she continues. "I also love photography and being out in nature. Despite being super busy at work I take out time for nurturing my relationships and prioritizing quality time with my partner."

"I am not sure what I am doing wrong. Any advice?" she concludes.

She shares at the bottom of her note that her total compensation is $850,000, and she has $3 million in assets. There have been thousands of comments and retweets to this post; both men and women have offered their two cents about why this woman is having so much trouble finding a long-term boyfriend and potential husband.

What Do Men Find Attractive?

Notice that this woman leads with all her professional accomplishments. She works at Google and manages a team of more than 20 people. She earns close to $1 million dollars a year, owns property, and has an expensive car. She loves to travel, has had very interesting experiences globally, and has even lived in three different continents. This is all very impressive, but sadly the very things that she thinks will make her a catch are what turn men off.

When you consider the natural relationship between masculinity and femininity, it's easy to see that a woman's professional accomplishments aren't the first things that men see and desire when they're looking for a long-term girlfriend or wife. Men want a woman who is feminine, sweet, nurturing, and maternal. Even if they don't articulate this in their dating profile, biologically men are searching for their counterpart, a wife who will be able to bear their children and create a home out of a house.

Sadly, feminism has convinced women that success, accolades, and high salaries are the things that make you an eligible wife. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being professionally and financially successful as a woman, but at some point, you have to come to terms with the fact that men are not primarily attracted to these things. Biologically, men are designed to be the protectors and providers—this has been the way of humankind since the dawn of time, and only recently in the modern era have people been convinced that this is a social construct rather than a natural expression of biology and physiology.

Biologically, men are searching for their counterpart, a wife who will be able to bear their children and create a home out of a house.

Unfortunately, this has resulted in an entire generation of working women who believe that their assets and high-powered job will have men lining up for them, when in reality, men are much more interested in your softness, your beauty, and your ability to nurture. Again, this doesn't mean that single women should not excel professionally, but it does mean that they will likely be at a disadvantage if they present themselves to men as a success story rather than as a woman.

Another red flag in this woman's note is her reference to her male friends. We don't know the exact circumstances, but it sounds like she has many male friends with whom she has discussed her looks. This could very well indicate that she is "one of the guys." This is a surefire way to turn off men in a romantic context. Men don't want to date a woman who is super rich and hangs out with a bunch of dudes, even if they are pretty. Men would much rather date a woman who is in touch with her femininity, as this paves the way for them to be more connected to their natural masculinity.

In response to this tweet, someone replied with a Gloria Steinem quote: "We are becoming the men we wanted to marry." It is the perfect encapsulation of this woman's struggles in love. She has become the ideal man: successful, rich, powerful, and experienced. But why would a man want to marry or even date the ideal man?

There's also one thing missing from her story that stands out. She talks about being well-traveled and having many different life experiences around the globe. She is seasoned. Andrew Tate, popular yet polarizing social media figure, has spoken on various podcasts before about what men really want in women: They want to be the woman's portal into the world. He claims this is the real reason men prefer younger women. It's not even necessarily because of their age or what they look like—it's because a younger woman is much less experienced and has seen much less of the world. She is much more likely to be innocent. It's the pure innocence of femininity that men are inherently attracted to. Andrew Tate is certainly a controversial figure who has a very shady past that involves exploiting women through his webcam company; however, he does speak some truths about the relationship between men and women, and this is one of them.

Perhaps this woman is having trouble finding a man because she presents herself to the world as someone who has seen and done it all. No innocence. No mystery. This doesn't mean that a woman should never travel or experience the world. Rather it means that women should show men their softer, more innocent side if they want to appear attractive and alluring. This woman would probably have much more success if she showed men the best parts of her personality, her femininity, and her beauty rather than constantly bragging about her professional success.