Selena Gomez Is Engaged, Shattering Hypergamy, And Giving Hope To Men Who Aren’t "Chads"

Selena Gomez’s love life has been one of Hollywood’s most talked-about topics for over a decade. From her high-profile relationship with Justin Bieber to her rumored flings with The Weeknd and other A-listers, her romantic history has been a rollercoaster of tabloid headlines and fan speculation.

For years, her dating life seemed to reflect the typical Hollywood formula: glossy, dramatic, and glamorous. But despite her high-profile suitors, there was always a sense that something wasn’t quite clicking—like Selena was still searching for something more meaningful, more grounding.

Enter Benny Blanco in a surprising twist in Selena’s love story. Benny isn’t the flashy superstar or heartthrob you might expect to see on her arm. He’s not a household name, and his success, while noteworthy, doesn’t rival Selena’s global fame. Their relationship feels much quieter and more understated chapter in her dating life, signaling that Selena has traded the chaos of headline-grabbing relationships for something different.

This engagement isn’t just a cute love story—it’s a direct blow to the hypergamy panic that’s been brewing in certain corners of the internet. You know, the one where all women are secretly plotting to ditch average men for some six-foot-four, modelesque "Chad" who drives a Lamborghini and owns six businesses.

Benny Isn’t a "Chad"—And That’s the Point

This engagement challenges the tired narrative that women are hypergamous by nature—always looking to trade up for someone wealthier, hotter, or more powerful. Sure, hypergamy exists, but it’s not the universal, doomsday reality some corners of the internet make it out to be. Women, just like men, want a real connection with the person they're with, and if it's strong enough, they're willing to forgo other elements like looks or status.

Because let’s be honest: Benny isn’t exactly cover-model material. He’s not towering over crowds or flashing a jawline that could cut glass. He doesn’t have a billionaire net worth or a string of blockbuster roles. Compared to Selena—a global superstar with multiple businesses, a beauty brand, and millions of adoring fans—he’s, well…average. And that’s exactly what makes this romance fly in the face of the idea that women only want to “marry up.”

Instead of chasing status symbols, Selena chose someone who, by all accounts, makes her genuinely happy. And maybe that’s where the Red Pill crowd gets it wrong in their endless dissection of women’s desires—there’s an X factor that transcends looks, status, or income. It’s the magic that happens when two people truly prioritize each other’s happiness. For some women, even someone as high-profile as Selena, that connection holds far more value than picking someone who you think will give you more "status" in the eyes of the world.

By choosing Benny, Selena reminds us that “high value” isn’t just about looks or money. It’s about character, compatibility, and how someone makes you feel. Benny may not have Brad Pitt’s bone structure or Elon Musk’s bank account, but apparently, he has something even more important: Selena’s heart.

Lana Did It Too

Selena’s engagement isn’t the first time a high-profile woman has flipped the hypergamy narrative on its head. Lana Del Rey, another globally adored superstar, recently tied the knot with someone who wasn’t exactly what you’d expect from the “Red Pill handbook.” Her husband, an alligator tour guide, doesn’t fit the conventional mold of a "high-status alpha male." But perhaps he brings something more valuable to the table like a genuine connection.

Lana, much like Selena, could have had her pick of Hollywood heartthrobs. Instead, she chose someone who complements her in ways that transcend appearances or social standing. It’s a clear rejection of the shallow belief that women only value money and looks above all else.

All Women Aren't the Same

Selena’s engagement also serves as a wake-up call for the doom-and-gloom crowd who love to paint all women as superficial status chasers. If one of the most famous, successful women in the world can choose love over appearances, maybe—just maybe—it’s time to rethink the narrative.

It’s easy to reduce relationships to transactional checklists or sweeping generalizations. But life isn’t a dating app where everyone swipes left on anything below a 9/10. For the men out there who aren’t walking around with eight-pack abs or six-figure paychecks, take heart: Benny is proof that some things matter more than being a “Chad.”

It’s time for the Red Pill crowd to hush and start handing out white pills instead. Optimism and hope have a way of winning—whether it’s in business, health, or, yes, love. Studies consistently show that people who approach life with a hopeful mindset tend to be more successful in nearly every area, from their careers to their relationships. So why wouldn’t the same apply to romance?

Instead of peddling doom and resignation, maybe it’s time to embrace the possibility of meaningful, lasting connections—even those that defy conventional expectations.

The “alpha-or-nothing” mindset isn’t just outdated; it’s a self-imposed barrier to genuine happiness. In the end, real romance, built on a real connection, always wins.